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Stop Comparing Yourself to Others
This is by far the biggest source of self-destruction. Comparing yourself to others will result in questioning yourself in a negative light. Remember, everyone moves at different speeds, life is not a race! Do the best that you can, continue working on yourself, and don’t mind what others are up to.
In the generation of ‘grammers and ‘livin my best life-ers’ – be you and be unique!
Get off Social Media
Although social media can be a very powerful platform for good, it can also cause self-doubt and lack of self-esteem when looking into the highlight reels of the seemingly perfect lives of strangers.
It can also be harmful in the world of self photoshopped pictures which is adding to unrealistic beauty standards. Embrace who you are and what you look like instead of wishing you were someone else! Love
I learned this for myself when I would aimlessly scroll through Instagram and see photo after photo of these luxurious lifestyles that are generally only set up to appear that way for the ‘gram. So, I unfollowed all of these people and only use social media as a source for creativity and inspiration. I love to practice my photography, modeling, and writing and share it through social media as a platform for creativity!
Find What You Really Want in Life
Instead of trying to follow in the steps of others or working for the highest dollar, take a step back and think to yourself what you really need in order to be happy. You are you and that is your greatest strength! Don’t waste your life in the shadow of others, work towards your own happiness.
Focus on Positive Relationships
Surrounding yourself with positive people and supportive relationships is extremely important. Having toxic people in your life is destructive and can create an atmosphere for self-doubt. Family and friends are meant to boost each other up and create a safe space as a confidant. Some people may come into your life and try to tear you down, it may be in an obvious way or not as apparent ways. Sometimes people get jealous of your successes and achievements and let their misery get the best of them & at the end of the day, these relationships are not worth your time. It is not bad to cut toxic people from your life when you are working towards self-love and fulfillment.
We live in a time of over-consumerism where we have this need for instant gratification coming from the quick purchases we make. But these feelings don’t last long and soon return to negative feelings. Hence, the vicious cycle continues, and we end up digging ourselves into a warped lifestyle resulting in inner self-doubt and unhappiness. We can break this toxic way, simply by living a more minimalistic lifestyle. Once you come to the realization that things don’t really matter and won’t buy you true happiness, you can begin finding out what really does!
Putting off activities and making excuses will only take you further away from happiness. Everyone is hustling to make the most money, buy the biggest house, and living this ‘white picket fence’ life – but what does that really mean? Does that involve making your 20s and 30s all about work and money? If so, then ask yourself – are you really happy and fulfilled? To me, fulfillment is about following my dreams and being present in the moment. It means, revolving my life around things I love and doing things that teach me about who I am.
Stop Being a Creature of Comfort
Settling into that comfortable lifestyle also means you stop experiencing new things. If you find yourself in the ‘work, eat, sleep’ mode, dreaming of the weekend to come, my guess is that you are not truly loving your life. Instead, try stepping out of your comfort zone every once in a while, and experiencing something new! Join a class, go on a road trip, travel – do something to feel A-L-I-V-E again!
Stress can completely ruin your mood and have a huge impact on your health. This is one of the biggest lessons I learned while living in Toronto this past year. Most people in the city always seemed on edge and a bit cold and distant. Everyone would rush from place to place…even on a Sunday! Sometimes I would notice myself getting caught up in this lifestyle and would have to take a step back and realize what was happening.
Try not getting caught up in things you can’t change and stop worrying about each little thing. Try to remain positive and learn the lesson from the situation you are given!
There are many things you can do to lower your stress levels. During stressful times, I make a point of going out hiking to explore a new place. I also am a very avid runner and yogi – practicing these activities brings me calm and inner peace. Find out what brings you peace and practice it each day!
I am a bit biased on this one because traveling is a huge part of my life. It doesn’t matter if you hop on a plane or take a road trip, getting out of your normal routine can be very refreshing! Taking these breaks can help clear your mind and help you figure out what is truly important!
Get Out of ‘The Waiting Place’
From the words of Dr. Seuss:
“The Waiting Place…
…for people just waiting.
Waiting for a train to go
Or a bus to come, or a plane to go
Or the mail to come, or the rain to go
Or the phone to ring, or the snow to snow
Or waiting around for a Yes or a No
Or waiting for their hair to grow.
Everyone is just waiting.
Waiting for the fish to bite
Or waiting for wind to fly a kite
Or waiting around for Friday night
Or waiting, perhaps, for their Uncle Jake
Or a pot to boil, or a Better Break
Or a string of pearls, or a pair of pants
Or a wig with curls, or Another Chance.
Everyone is just waiting.
That’s not for you!”
It can be easy to fall into the Waiting Place and it can be hard to find your way out. A lot of people spend days, months, years – just waiting. Waiting on